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Current Read: Blink, by Malcolm Gladwell.

Great book so far. Early in the book Gladwell describes how a researcher in the field of relationships and marriages can tell if a couple is going to last based on a short video of the couple talking.

I totally buy it only because recently I got a strong vibe from a couple I knew, but not too well. They were practically strangers to me. But when I saw them interact with each other, I got a funny feeling that's difficult to put into words. The closest I can translate is a sort of "I'm not getting my fingerprints on that train-wreck" type of feeling. So I didn't. Now they're broken up.

This is not the first time. Most of the time I can tell which couples are going to last and which ones aren't. It was a hobby of mine in high school. Of course, that was high school where three month relationships were considered "long-term." I honed this skill in college. Again, that was college, not really "real-life." But close enough. Lately I've been watching couples together. At restaurants, on the TTC, at church. Wherever I see them I try to gauge the relationship. I try to figure out who the dominant one is, who's more in love, if they're even in love. Problem is I don't know if I'm right.

There was a couple on the subway today. They were very touchy feely. It was young love and a recent one at that. They were boring. Couples in the subway, you can tell the ones that last (read: I think will last) by how they don't need to talk or constantly have their hands all-over each other. The ones that last are the ones that quietly hold hands or stare at one another. No words, just a sureness in their body language. "I love you and I will be with you till the day I die," their expressive eyes say.

Again, I don't know if I'm right. I just know that I get these feelings and thoughts when I observe. I trust my instincts on this one. I don't know if I'm right, I just think I am.

Oh, I almost forgot. Fiona's getting married in a year and seven months. I don't know to whom yet though. Neither does she. Congratulations!